Then the man said, “Let me go, for it is daybreak.” But Jacob replied, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.”
If you don't know this story, you might want to read more of it.
Anyways sometimes you're gonna have to fight for your blessing.
You're going to have to talk through what you're looking for. All blessings don't just come up out the sky magically.
Sometimes you have to grind out and wrestle through it and then say, "give me what I got coming". And mean it.